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When I Came Out

By Anne Mette Kærulf Lorentzen

Paperback, 144 pp, $22.99

Forty-something Louise is married to Peter, with whom she has four children. They live in a big house, and on paper everything looks fantastic. But Louise has a secret that she barely dares to admit to herself: a burning desire for women. When I Came Out is the story of a woman who has met society’s expectations throughout her life but finally realizes that she has not been true to herself.

From first-time creator Anne Mette Kærulf Lorentzen, this bold and elaborate piece of autobiographical work addresses personal anxieties about coming out later in life and documents her jump from a safe, well-established, heteronormative, middle-class life to living openly as a lesbian. With beautiful drawings using anthropomorphic characters, Anne Mette Kærulf Lorentzen tells her coming-out story with charming sensitivity and a loving humour.

Anne Mette Kærulf Lorentzen

Anne Mette Kærulf Lorentzen is an architect and LGBTQ+ activist living in Denmark. She is part of the NGO Female Oxygen, which supports women in countries where LGBTQ+ rights are threatened. 


”Lorentzen writes about a sort of midlife crisis that is a quest for authenticity. It resonates more with the core of who we are than stories involving red Corvettes and tight leather pants.”
— Cinnamon Mag
”It shows how coming out is both internal and external – on a personal level with yourself and with the people you are close with. Often these are interconnected.”
— Broken Frontier
”Personal and moving.”
— Slings and Arrows